Why Taking A Break In A Relationship Is Good
“We’re on a break” has become a pretty popular phrase in modern day relationships. It can either be a healing time for a couple or it can determine a permanent break up. Asking for a break can seem like a selfish thing to do in a relationship, but there is nothing wrong with giving yourself some time to reconnect with yourself and others in your life. Plus, if you’re thinking about taking a break and don’t go through with it because you “feel bad,” then you might just end up resenting your partner because you never got that time you needed.
I find that if couples are clear about the terms of a break and do it the right way, it can make a relationship stronger. There are certain steps to follow to make sure you are taking a break in the most healthiest way possible.
First, be clear about the end goal of the break. Is there a chance of breaking up or are you definitely looking to get back together? You never want to play with your partner’s head or give him/her false hope. “Taking a break” is sometimes used as a cowardly way of ending the relationship, so make sure you aren’t doing that. If you want to break up, it’s better to just be honest about it.
Pay attention to how you feel. If you feel happier and more like yourself when you’re away from your partner, then it might be a sign that the relationship isn’t going to workout. However, if you really miss your partner and the time apart gives you a new outlook on how much you love and appreciate them, then it will make your relationship stronger than ever before. It sounds cliché, but distance really does make the heart grow fonder.
Communicate a designated time of this break. Discuss how long the break will last, how often you’ll communicate or see each other because being unclear can cause confusion, frustration and lead to more problems.
Talk about what you will be doing during your time away from each other. Are you looking to hook up with other people? If you want to, make sure you make that known. If one person is hooking up with other people and the other person assumes that a break is just time to yourself, that they will interpret that as cheating and that can do some serious damage to a relationship.
Stepping aside and finding yourself can be so healthy, especially after years of being with someone else in a committed relationship. It is a time to self-reflect and spend more time with your friends and family, so you don’t forget about the other important people in your life.
Both time and distance have been known to strengthen relationships. But like I said, if during this time apart, you realize that you don’t miss your partner and don’t want to be with them, then that’s OK too. Regardless, You should never lose yourself and independence in a relationship and if you find that you’re starting to, a break might be the perfect solution.