When To Stop Texting a Potential Bae, Once He Starts Playing Games

You meet through a friend or an app. You go on a few dates. You start sleeping together. Everything is going according to plan. Then – all of a sudden – he’s dodging your texts and it’s becoming increasingly difficult to hang out. But you can still text him, right? This has been a very common tale of millennial dating.


I know this may be an unpopular opinion but you should not be making the fact that they don’t have an adult attention span your problem. This cannot be an added stress that you put on yourself. If someone isn’t giving you the time of day – someone that you weren’t interested in – then you would be cutting them out of your life already.

In fact, I’m sure you would come to the conclusion yourself that this person is no longer enriching your life in any way. Cut them lose. It’s just one more thing to worry about.

And I’m the queen of the long game. Granted, I’m a Virgo and I have an incredible amount of patience. Sometimes a guy just needs a little time alone to realize what he’s missing. And trust me, the good ones always circle back around with a brand new attitude.

This isn’t me saying to play hard to get. This isn’t a game. This is an act of self-love. This is you demanding the respect you deserve. And remember my infinite well of patience? Well, it does run out. My patience depletes when someone doesn’t show me the basic human decency of respecting my time. That’s when I lose it.

I don’t have the time or the emotional energy to play your game of not texting me back. Other behaviors of lack of respect include: not making plans, only sexting, and never committing or confirming plans.

Ladies, trust me, you don’t need to waste your time trying to analyze and crack the case of what kind of stupid game of “hard to get” he’s playing this time. It’s just not worth your time or your energy. Instead, just stop texting him. It’s the best move you can make – both for the situation and yourself. Relieve yourself of the responsibility of guessing his every move. Eliminate the burden of always having to make the move, make the plan, and quite frankly, micromanage the relationship. You don’t deserve to be that person. We never like ourselves when we are.

They say, “If you love something, let it go. If it was meant to be, it will come back to you.” Well, I don’t know if that’s always the case but I do know that you’ll love life a hell of a lot more when you don’t have this unnecessary weight on your shoulders. Let it go, beautiful women, you have a lot more good shit waiting for you.