Life Lessons Every Girl Can Learn From Sex And The City

So I will not debate the fact that I have some super basic guilty pleasures and binging “Sex and the City” is one of them. Besides watching the random episode sporadically, I watched the series in college and then again during my first adult relationship and now I’m currently binging a year after my first adult breakup and actually swimming in the waters of casual sex. And let me tell you, there are some timeless lessons to be found in “Sex and the City”. 

It takes a LOT to get over our exes.

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Gif taken from gifer.com

When you love someone, your feelings just don’t disappear even after the relationship or situationship ends. Even when you are dating someone else, maybe even multiple people, you will still find there are periods where you unexpectedly feel the need to grieve your ex. I.e. Carrie and Big: the early years. 

We meet people when we least expect it. 

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Taken from buzzfeed

I know a lot of people have a checklist in their minds of what they are looking for in a perfect partner. But like the universal “they” always says, “you meet someone when you least expect it.” I.e. Charlotte meeting Harry, her Jewish divorce lawyer and totally throwing her checklist out the window and opening the door for some great sex. 

We can’t fix people.  

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This lesson is a lesson that I was sad to learn. We know, ladies, Aiden wasperfect! But he wasn’t perfect for Carrie! He did all the right things but she was not in the right place in her life for this relationship to succeed. Aiden was whole and Carrie was still broken. So sad! 

Being Sex Positive is freaking cool.

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Taken from wifflegif.com

Samantha Jones was a sex positive, feminist before it was cool. Before “polyamory” was every day vernacular, there was Samantha! She had so much sexual confidence, never hesitated to ask for what she wanted, and never slut shamed! She was ahead of her time. May we all have the incredible sex Samantha had and the attitude to pull it off. 

Successful women may intimidate some men, but not the good ones!

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Taken from pinterest

How many times did guys totally screw over Miranda because they were intimidated by her success? It feels like hundreds throughout the whole series. Like wow, she’s a super successful, financially independent lawyer and actually a very generous lover and girlfriend and so many men were scared of it. But not the one that counted. Steve, who was just a bartender when they met, was not apprehensive at all. He loved her for her success along with everything else that made Miranda Miranda. 

Our friends really are our soulmates. Aw! 

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Taken from tenor.com

If “Sex and the City” has taught us anything, it’s to never underestimate the love and support of really great friends. The women had been through so many beaus and buttheads, lead successful and difficult careers, made countless mistakes, and celebrated so many joys but the one thing that always remained constant was their friendship. That was one thing they could always count on.