Ladies, Happiness Looks Good on You!
Audrey Hepburn once said, “Happy girls are the prettiest.” This is a sentiment that I always believed.
I recently listened to a podcast, “Magic Lessons with Elizabeth Gilbert”, where New York Times Best Selling Author, Glennon Doyle Melton said,
“We are so concerned with what we look like that we forget to care about what we’re looking at.”
It’s not a secret that women are objectified in the media. It is Melton’s theory that we grow up in a culture where we are objectified so often that we tend to objectify ourselves – without even realizing it. How often do we find ourselves worrying about how we look? How thin we look? How sexy our outfit is? It’s something I do all of the time. And I’m not saying that caring about your appearance is unhealthy. I’m a strong believer in looking our best. But I also think we can find ourselves obsessing over how we look.
Since it seems that society is obsessed with how women look, we subconsciously adopt the habit ourselves. What the media does is give us insight to events, people, situations, etc. that we don’t (usually) experience personally. It gives us a different perspective. But when the perspective is constantly showcasing women overly sexualized and underdeveloped female characters, it is easy for young girls to absorb this message. In fact, women directed only 7% of the top 250 domestic grossing films in 2016 according to The New York Times. That means the majority of cinematic content that people are exposed to is from the male perspective.
I am not saying the lack of female directors in Hollywood is the sole reason why women tend to judge themselves based on appearance but I believe it is a factor. Defining ourselves by our appearance is so ingrained in us, we may not enough realize it. But if and when you do, it’s impossible to not identify it and catch yourself spending more time worrying about how you look than what you’re doing.
Now you can make change. Dig deep and figure out what exactly you want and what exactly defines you. We all want to find someone to love. But what I’ve learned over the past few years is that I attract the most people when I am pursuing things that make me happy. Sure I can look good doing it, but I make a conscious effort to make happiness my top priority. I am on a constant journey inward to figure out what makes me feel the most beautiful inside.