Ladies, Are You In A Toxic Relationship?

I believe that when you are in a relationship, you should be the best version of yourself. Your significant other should make you better and vice versa. That’s what I look for in a relationship. But the fact of the matter is, it’s not always what we get. Here are some signs to look for if you have the inclination that your relationship may be toxic.

They don’t take you seriously

It is awful to have a partner who doesn’t listen to you much less a partner who doesn’t respect what you have to say. Not feeling listened to or respected can result in a rapid drop in self-esteem and that is simply not a healthy state for you to be in. Your self-worth should not be influenced by their lack of respect.

They are too controlling

I will say this once and I will say it a million times, you cannot be in a healthy relationship with someone you don’t trust or someone who doesn’t trust you. The relationship will never work and can turn toxic very fast. When trust isn’t present, that’s when fear kicks. And when you fear something, you tend to hold on to it super tightly. If trust isn’t there, controlling behavior can occur. Behavior like “you can’t hang out with people”, going through text messages, etc. If someone doesn’t trust the other person – trust me, you should not be in the relationship.

 

They blame you

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If you find that your partner consistently blames you for anything and everything, you are in a toxic relationship. If you bring up behavior that bothers you or makes you uncomfortable and they say that it is “your fault” for feeling this way and/or shut down the conversation, that’s not okay. Both partners need to communicate with each other. And the constant blaming and lack of discussion of the situation and your emotions creates an environment of fear and self-doubt.

 

They threaten you

This does not necessarily mean they physically threaten or get physical with you (But of course these are also signs of a toxic relationship and you should leave immediately) but constantly threatening to leave you is also a threat. If they repeatedly offer you this impossible ultimatum of doing what they want or else they’ll leave, realize that you are being controlled. The power dynamic is super off and they are manipulating you to the point where you have no other choice but to do as they say.

If you feel like you are in a toxic relationship, tell someone close to you and immediately leave the person you are with. Both your safety and mental health are of the utmost important. If you feel like you cannot handle this on your own, call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. Get yourself out and get yourself safe.