Is it OK to Kiss on A First Date?
It is 100% okay to kiss on the first date and it 100% okay to not kiss on the first date?
What it’s not okay to do is kiss on the first date because you are bored and tired of talking to them. Is it bad that I thought to myself, “Wow it would actually take less effort to make out with this guy than trying to keep a conversation going”? And the answer is, yes, Michelle, it’s bad.
Basically what I am trying to say is what I would avoid doing is trying to force intimacy. It can be tempting to flirt with the barista to get a free coffee. It can be so easy to manipulate situations with even the intimacy of a kiss because we really want the other person to like us or just because it’s easy.
If you’re really not feeling it, then no harm done. No kiss for you. Just give him a hug and turn that cheek at the end of the night.
On the flip side, if you catch yourself looking at his lips and maybe biting yours a little while you sip drinks together at the bar, you’re interested. And I would go for it. Suck on your straw a little, girl. As Cher once said:
But I always want you to remember: you have the power. You always have the power. It is up to you to decide what you want to do with your body on the first date and any time after that. Always have first dates in public places and never do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. You should never have to feel any pressure.
So I encourage you to listen to heart and your mind but most importantly listen to your gut. You’ll know if that first kiss is in the cards for you. Be safe and have fun!