How To Fit Dating Into Your Schedule
I think in this day and age it’s very easy for us to become overworked and mentally exhausted. Its hard sometimes to check in with ourselves especially when even the dating scene can be another stressor in our lives. As much as I love going on dates, it can be overwhelming when you have two first dates lined up this week along with everything else going on. You don’t want to neglect your friends and skip happy hour. You also don’t want skip Shondaland either.
I would recommend trying not to date more than two people at once. I know sometimes that gets kind of tricky. When you have one first date, and a second date, and then a third. What we really need to get better at is deciding who is really adding something to our lives.
The act of going on dates is really fun. And it’s super flattering when someone is really interested. But the nice places he/she takes you can sway your actual opinion of them. It’s easy to fall into a routine of dating someone. Drinks with Dave on Tuesday again. It’s nice. But when you have drinks with Dave and dinner with Tim every Thursday, believe it or not, it becomes overwhelming. And more often then not, I freak out because I feel like I need space and end things pretty abruptly. But that could have easily been avoided if I self reflected enough to realize that I really wasn’t interested in them in the first place.
Honestly, I think a good way to tell if you’re really interested in someone is to have a sober date. Without the alcohol to affect your judgment, you’ll know super fast whether or not you want to spend more time with this person. I’m not saying it has to be the first date but maybe try it out for the second or third. And just like that you cleared a day of your week for someone you are interested in or just time for some self-care.
I think we forget that the point of dating is to meet someone who is going to have a positive impact on our lives and who we are as people. You can have a fun time with anyone, your friends, your family. Dating someone should never feel like a chore. If you’re pursuing someone, you should be excited for the next date. If you’re not, then that’s how you weed them out and make room for someone you actually care about. It takes a special person for you to carve out personal time to spend with them. Your time is valuable. Don’t give your time to just anyone.