Around the holiday season, it can feel like everyone loves the holidays with Christmas music constantly playing and stores shoving their sales down our throats. It can absolutely feel overwhelming and sometimes even depressing. The holidays are meant to be a celebration but that’s not always what it feels like.
As a sensitive person, I just wanted to tell you there is nothing wrong with feeling that way. At the very least, the holidays can bring you joy and financial stress. And I already feel anxiety about my December credit card bill coming in. Financial stress weighs on us and it’s easy to become wrapped up in that anxiety. Just remember, no one who matters will ever condemn you for DIY-ing a present to save money. Gifts are not about how much money you spend and anyone who loves you understands that.
I am very lucky that I live very close to my family and have them as a support system especially around the holidays. It can be difficult to live in a city far from the people you love. Surely, it can make the holiday season seem less than joyous without your people to celebrate with. But you aren’t alone. Celebrate with the people around you. The season is for giving so maybe volunteer and give your time to other’s less fortunate. Go to the soup kitchen or volunteer at a children’s hospital. If you can’t be with the ones you love, spread your love.
And what’s especially depressing is when it’s your first year without a significant other. Christmas after breakups are the worst. All of your memories are intertwined with that other person. It’s difficult to separate Christmas from them. And it sucks when everything reminds you of them. Well this is the perfect opportunity to start some new Christmas traditions and makes some new memories. Do it, even it you have to force yourself. Initiate a potluck dinner with your friends, do a Christmas activity you’ve never done before. Maybe even travel to a new city a few days before Christmas to see how they celebrate. Celebrate the holidays how you need to, in a way you will enjoy them.
Christmas and the holidays are stressful and I hope my little bit of silver lining made you smile. Feeling depressed and anxious around the holidays is complicated and I never mean to minimize what you are going through. I am just spreading the joy in the little ways I know how. I sincerely hope you have a beautiful holiday season and remember, you are not alone even if you may feel like it.